For years I acted like I didn’t “need” anything special to celebrate my birthday. It was because I had been disappointed with birthdays in the past. When we were little my mom threw us birthday parties. I distinctly remember my birthday in first grade. Girls from class surrounded me in frilly dresses (when we used …
My mom used to tell me that my friendships would change as soon as we start to get married and have kids. Thinking I knew it all (because we know EVERYTHING in our twenties), I said, “No way. We’re not going to be those people. Friendship comes down to the effort one makes. We show …
Are you going through a career or life transition? SO many people I know are going through this. If you want to feel less alone, I’ll share what I’ve been going through the last few years with the possibility that it may help you feel better. I personally have not felt great the last few …
My 6-year old nephew was at the park and another kid was upset he was climbing on the jungle gym that she was on. She said, “I don’t know where you’re from or if you speak English but you need to get out of here!” The little girl’s tone was contempt and all I could …
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Everything I do is to make this little girl proud. No it’s not my daughter. It’s the kid version of me. (I imagine when you have kids, most of this switches to them). Yup, whenever I’m questioning what I’m doing with my life, I think about kid-me. What would she think if she saw that …
When I reached my mid 30’s I noticed my face starting to change. Particularly my eyes when I tried to do “smokey eye” make-up one night. I looked at photos. OMG. I can’t do my eyeshadow like this anymore. It makes my eyes look sunken in! Other things I’ve noticed: – Bags under my eyes …
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When I decided to write my first book and share more personal growth material, I had serious imposter syndrome (still working on it). It’s one of the reasons I hid behind my camera as a photographer for 15 years, because it was more comfortable telling other people’s stories. “Who am I to share my story …
I dated this guy for a while. Let’s call him Dave. I liked Dave because he was patient, adventurous, and I felt like I could be myself around him. This was during a time when I attracted emotionally unavailable men, so Dave was, of course, emotionally unavailable. Despite us “breaking up,” we still hung out often …
This is an excerpt from my book Show Up: Finding Love for Independent Women. Now available on Amazon! After doing personal growth for a few years and feeling frustrated with my dating life, I wondered if things would ever change. Then I met a guy named Greyson. Greyson and I went back and forth …
“Water is fluid, soft, and yielding. But water will wear away rock, which is rigid and cannot yield. As a rule, whatever is fluid, soft, and yielding will overcome whatever is rigid and hard. This is another paradox: what is soft is strong.” – Lao Tzu Tapping into my soft side brings me joy. When …
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