When I photographed weddings for a living, I forgot that being a wedding photographer is in actuality, a lot of work. It didn’t feel like hard work because it was what I was passionate about at the time. Don’t get me wrong – there are times it felt like work, but most of the time it felt like passion!
Anything that feels like constant work is going to in the long run, make you miserable. Not only when it comes to career, but friendships and relationships.
I’ve been in relationships where it felt like a lot of work (communicating, compromising, making sure everything was ok), and also ones that flowed so effortlessly that I never needed to stop, think, or “talk about it.” In retrospect, in the easy relationships, I was still communicating and compromising, but the difference was that it didn’t feel like it.
If it constantly feels like work, it’s like running a marathon – eventually I’m going to get tired. I choose to do things in life that overall feel easy. That makes me happy.
If you’d like insight into how I created ease in my romantic life, I dive into it in my book Show Up: Finding Love for Independent Women.
Yes! This is also why I’ve started to seriously consider changing my focus with photography. My forte isn’t with people and I need to start being honest with myself and stop worrying whether or not I can making a living doing what I really love…!
You hit the nail on the head, Christine.