“It is your own responsibility to determine your happiness, but a big part of heightening it or making it easy, is your peer group.”
I forgot where I read that, but I like it.
Growing up, I somehow found myself surrounded by negative people – those who constantly complained and criticized others.
It’s toxic. Part of the reason was because I myself was this way. I used to be a highly cynical person and can safely say that it’s one of the worst qualities to have. Once I let go of that my life changed 180 degrees.
I was having a candid conversation with a colleague. She said that she doesn’t have much in common with her old friends anymore. She talks about things that excite her and they never have anything positive to say about it.
Sometimes it happens – you grow apart from people. You don’t necessarily have to de-friend them but the people you spend the most time with, I believe should be people who have similar values as you. Choose wisely.
I choose to be close to people who:
Have integrity, a good work ethic, are passionate, positive, optimistic, adventurous, take responsibility for themselves, constantly work at improving themselves, respect themselves and other people.
I don’t choose to be close with people who:
Are negative, blame other people and situations, constantly complain, disrespect themselves and others, are lazy, have no integrity, have a routine life with no desire to step outside their bubble.
There is NOTHING wrong with the qualities in my “don’t” category – It’s something I simply don’t choose to have close in my life because I want to feel healthy and inspired, not drained. Some people may hate the things I value and that’s ok.
One last thing to consider is that you attract what you are. I love my peer group. How do you feel about yours?